The Tale of Two Mothers

There are two mothers.  They are very different but share the love of one precious boy.  One mother conceived him, carried him in her womb, and delivered him.  She felt him grow in her.  She felt him kick.  She felt the pain of contractions.  She shares her genetics with him.  

The other mother doesn't share genetics but she shares his thoughts, dreams, loves, and beliefs.  She never felt the pain of contractions but she knows the pain of watching him struggle after a severe egg allergy.  She knows the pain of every hurt he has felt and every sickness he has had. She knows the pain of sitting up in the middle of the night praying over him as he is struggling to breathe due to an asthma attack.  She knows the pain of watching him cry with a confused look on his face as he is being taken away for a visit.  She never felt him grow in her but she has watched him grow from the time he was 2 days old and she brought him home from the hospital. 

One mother will get the privilege of watching him continue to grow, develop, and become the person God created him to be.  The other mother will say goodbye forever tomorrow.  

I must admit up until the last court date all I focused on was our family and getting our forever baby.  As I sat in court on a row full of people who love S with all their hearts, and looked over at the other mother sitting by herself on what had to be one of the hardest days of her life, my heart broke for her.  I couldn't imagine what she was feeling as she agreed to let us adopt him knowing she would never get to see him except maybe at Walmart or somewhere in town.  The thought of that broke my heart but also made me happy because that means he is going to be forever ours!  Tomorrow as he sees his other mother for the last time, yes I will be happy that there will be no more dreaded visit days, but I will be praying for her as she goes through the worse day of her life.  I will pray she will not let this be the end of her life but the beginning.  I pray she will know that he will forever and always be loved and cared for!  I pray for two children who will never get to see their brother again.  I pray for them as they go through life knowing they have a brother out there.  I pray for S that he will know he is loved by two women and that he is where God wants him.  

"However motherhood comes to you, it's a miracle." Valerie Harper, Adoptive Parent