Before his first day at his new center, we knew it was going to be different. We could tell that the director was not comfortable with his allergies. Our doctor had to write several notes saying that Shawn had allergies and if needed, they would have to use an EpiPen on him and give him Benadryl. We had to fill out a form every two weeks giving the center permission to administer his EpiPen and Benadryl.
We got a phone call about 2 months ago asking for another doctor's note about the EpiPen and Benadryl. When I turned it in, I was told that they would have to lock one up and the other would be allowed to be in his medicine bag that goes everywhere with him, including home every evening. We would have to decided which one we wanted locked up and which one we wanted with him. I immediately got on the Internet and started looking up NC preschool laws about food allergies. While doing this research, I found out that there is a law that says if a child has a chronic illness such as asthma or food allergies that the medical forms I was having to fill out every two weeks were really good for 6 months. I was told that he would be allowed to keep his EpiPens and Benadryl together since they may need to he used at the same time, depending on the situation. Then about 3 weeks ago I got a phone call at school asking me if I had turned in his new permission to administer papers. I said that I had forgotten to and then was told that if he had a reaction that they could not treat him because they didn't have updated forms. You may remember that while doing research I found out that those forms are good for 6 months. I asked the director if she was aware that according to the law that the forms were good for 6 months. She told me she wasn't and asked me to fax the forms to her. I did and was told that evening that what I sent her was in reference to a doctor's note even though it CLEARLY says that parents can give permission for up to 6 months if it is a chronic illness. I tried questioning her on it then but got nothing back and tried again the next morning. I was told then that she didn't care what Raleigh said, that for her center they were due back every two weeks. I said fine and decided then that when school ended in June, he would not be going back there.
I went in Monday and found that they had made new cubby tags and they put his bio name for his last name instead of our name. I was upset because he can recognize Walmart and other environmental print words and don't want him learning that as his last name. I made a loud| "ugh" sound, gently pulled the tag off, crossed off his bio last name, wrote his new last name, and put his tag back on his cubby. When I went to pick up Shawn that afternoon, I was asked to go into the director's office. She asked about the cubby tag and I told her I did it and said I was sorry. She then went on to say that I have been "flustrated" ever since the medicine form thing and she didn't know why. I said that it really bothered me to get a phone call saying that my child wouldn't be treated if he had a reaction because the date on the form was not correct even though NC preschool law says the form is good for 6 weeks. She again said that he would not be treated if the date was not correct and for her center it was ever two weeks because it was easier to keep up with the forms that way. After yelling at me, while my child was in the room with us, she said that since I was obviously "flustrated" that we had two weeks to find somewhere new.
I can now say that I know how it feels to be discriminated against because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if Shawn did not have food allergies, he would still be there. I know she didn't feel comfortable with his allergies and what could happen and she used this situation as a way to kick us out. We will miss his wonderful teacher there and his sweet friends, but we won't miss her. It is a sad day when someone puts their accreditation over the life of a child! He will begin somewhere new Monday where I know he will he loved, cared for, and protected. We will file this experience as a lesson learned the hard way and will learn from it so this will NEVER happen again!!!